19 November 2011

I will thrive

The other day I read this from one of my favourite bloggers.

What really struck me was her desire to thrive rather than just survive.

Ok, so I know the boy isn't on deployment etc but the truth of those words really hit me. So bearing that in mind I write this letter to my man.

Dear T

A lot has changed in the past few months. We are a long way from each other. We have gone from seeing each other every day to seeing each other on average once a month. This is the one year we will be furthest apart.

More than anything I want to come out of this strong and confident. I want to mature and grow and understand more.

I want to come out of this year with a deeper realisation of you and us. I want to use this year to trust. To trust in God's timing and plans and trust in your love. I want to grow as a woman to be the best I can be for you.

I don't want to just survive this year.

Even in three months we have grown. We have communicated more, shared more, loved more.

More than anything I have learnt to accept. You do not find this as difficult as me but I am learning to accept a situation that I have no control over.

In short we have grown up.

We are learning that Happy comes from knowing each other are in the right place. I am blessed that you "get" me, that you love that I am loving my job. I am blessed to know that you care so much that I am happy.

On paper this year is not ideal.

In reality we are thriving.

Me and you; we are doing just fine.



humel said...

Abi - this is just beautiful :) Thanks you for sharing it with us xx

Lizzie said...

What a lovely thing to share with us - and to write for T.
I think it is good for a couple to have something like this to cope with. It does test you - but tests can be a very positive thing. It gives you the time and space to be your own selves, to grow up more, to become comfortable with your own company, after being with each other so frequently that you may have become "a habit" - to confirm your commitment to each other and make certain that it is the right commitment. If you reach the end of this year and are still "together", then you will be more sure than ever, that you are "right together". That is such a useful experience - and so wonderful when you reach the end of your separation, with an affirmation that you are "meant to be"!
God Bless you both - I know you will find His support invaluable as you learn to be separate people and to grow together, while you are apart. x

Anonymous said...

Have you guys broken up yet?